I've spent a lot of time writing about how men think and what we want from women. I'm going to change direction here and offer some advice which I think applies to all of us, but particularly women.
Ask any man what a woman wants and he has no idea....ask a woman and her answer might depend on the time of day or the brightness of the moon or, of course, that time of the month. When it comes to dating and loving men figure out what's most important to you. Is it a smile on your face, financial security, laughter, abnormally large male genitalia? Whatever makes you happiest, that's what, and who you should focus on.
Now, knowing exactly what makes you happy takes some inward thought and self awareness. Enlighten thyself. This requires purity, honesty and courage. You must be true to your heart. You can't live your life worrying what you should be doing, or who you should be doing, or who "they" think you should be doing. Spend less time questioning yourself and start trusting your feelings more. Forget about men for a second. What do you need?
Once you learn to ignore the outside noise and listen to your heart, you'll find it much easier to find the "right" guy for you.